Izabel Lazamana is a 13-year-old girl from Tacoma, Washington. She committed suicide by jumping off a highway overpass on May 29 a few days after her dad uploaded a video of him punishing her for ‘getting messed up’. He decided to cut her hair off publicly shaming her and it is believed that the dad’s chosen form of discipline is what led to Izabel’s death.
Public shaming has become a popular thing, we have all be guilty of praising parents for disciplining their child using social media mediums.
Little boys are getting old man hair cuts, girls are put in barrettes with their ages written on their chest, social media whippings are also popular too.
I watched a video just today of a 26 year old father who wanted to give his perspective on public shaming, he said what goes on in the home should stay in the home.
He thinks that public shaming can lead to suicide and that there are other ways of punishing a child which might involve removing from their life the very thing that is causing the disruption like the phone, laptop or Ipad.
Unfortunately we have already lost one child to this sort of discipline so it is obvious that this does not work. If your child is getting ‘messed up’ there are other courses of action.
Old school discipline and traditional help still works well and we cant help but think that when a child puts something explicit online for attention that when you put them on social media trying to ‘shame them’, you are guilty of the same need. – Attention!
Social media is what we call a necessary evil if used for good it can be beneficial, when used in a negative way it can be very bad.
Social media has been placed into the hands of our children without any guidance what so ever, all they have to do is download an app and start sharing their life.
Children are so enamored by likes and share just as adults are. We need to understand that if we do not teach children that there are certain things about them that are sacred by example, constant supervision and communication we are not hitting the problem at the root.
Sometimes it might mean taking your child out of a school plagued with drugs or moving to another state, or traveling more to show them the world. Whatever it takes to get them to understand the value of their life is what we have to do as parents and that is not easy.
Public shaming is not the way to go, we at least know that for a fact!