Infidelity is not something rare in relationships and it is in fact one of the most common reasons for ending a relationship. It is a quite tough situation and you may not know what to do at first.
You checked his or her emails, facebook messages or smelled cologne other than yours on his or her clothes and you’re devastated, angry, hurt – you have every right to be. In this case, you should know what to do and not to do. Here are some tips to decide.
1.Analyze the awful cheating incident
Is it a one-time thing? Or has it become an obvious habit? Did he or she confess and beg for your forgiveness or denied and lied right to your face?
Well, if it’s a one night only mistake and he or she came crying and asked to be forgiven, you may consider carrying on.
Whatever the reason, it is an awful thing. However, when think of the relationship and the mutual trust you built together, some things may just be forgiven and forgotten in time.
Imagine yourself rebuilding the trust that has just been broken. Weigh the pros and cons then decide. Watch how is he or she trying to make it up to you.
But if it’s an affair that has been going on for a while behind your back or if it’s more-than-one-person kind of cheating, you got to dump that cheater right away. Do not forget: once a cheater, always a cheater.
2. Do not blame yourself
Even if you are worst possible lover on earth, cheating is not the solution. You should not blame yourself for your partner’s infidelity. It’s not something you did and it’s not about your shortcomings as a partner.
If there is a problem that cannot be solved in a relationship, couples break up; they do not cheat on. So don’t try to find where did you go wrong, blame it on him or her.
They may even get ugly and try to put the blame on you and your actions, but it’s just something they do to defend themselves.
3. Do not get revenge
Okay, you’re hurt. You broke up with your significant other all of a sudden. Maybe you feel depressed. You want them to pay for what they did to you. But, DON’T.
You won’t get anything out of this. If you want to feel satisfied, move on and find someone else to be happy with. Time will heal all the wounds and you won’t even remember that cheater while you’re busy loving your next partner.
Believe in karma and don’t ever listen to Beyoncé’s Resentment anywhere near your phone while drinking!