Last week, news came out that Kendrick Lamar is now engaged to Whitney Alford, his high school sweetheart. An engagement is always something to celebrate, and all Kendrick’s fans were pleased for him. Not everyone thought the news was pleasant, though.
Self-proclaimed Dark Skinned Activist, Rashida Marie Strober, posted a controversial status on her Facebook page where she slammed Kendrick for getting engaged to a girl who’s light-skinned.
“Well, well, well would you looky here. “ANOTHER FAKE CONSCIOUS MUTHER F–ER EXPOSED. I will never support him nor his music with one dime of my money and encourage all dark skinned women not to either!”
The post has garnered plenty of support from Rashida’s fans, but has also drawn tons of criticism from everyone else. Kendrick hasn’t responded, and he really shouldn’t.
Rashida heads the Dark Skin is Beautiful campaign and has made two stage plays, “Ice Cream Lady’s Dream” and “A Dark Skinned Woman’s revenge”.
Since 1999, she has been advocating for people whose skin complexions are dark. This was largely caused by Rashida’s own experiences as she grew up.
In school, her classmates bullied her countless times because of her dark skin. According to her biography on Facebook, she was given names like “African Booty Scratcher”, “monkey mouth” and “black and ugly”, and was told she would never be an actress. She was also homeless for part of her teenage life.
Rashida’s experiences in life have been tragic; no one should grow up being told that they will never realize their hopes and dreams. However, her criticism of Kendrick is uncalled for.
He’s a musician, and a damn good one, but above all, he’s a man. His choice to marry his high school sweetheart is a personal decision, and his to make. In fact, it’s impressive that he wasn’t tempted by some random model after his money, like many rappers are. Rashida has no right to expect him to live his life the way she wants.
His love life belongs to him and whomever he’s dating; no one else matters. Kendrick doesn’t have to date a dark-skinned girl just so people like Rashida feel good about themselves. Rashida’s anger is misplaced and entirely unjustified. She needs a chill pill and take care of her own issues before trying to stomp on someone’s happiness–someone who doesn’t even know she exists.
What do you think? Is Rashida justified in attacking Kendrick?