I’ve been single for quite some time now, and the closer I get to 30, the more I think about my biological clock and sometimes I even feel like I can hear it ticking.
Since moving to a new city, I’ve dated around a bit, but for whatever reason nobody has really sparked my interest, or they weren’t looking for anything long term, just a casual fling here and there.
I’ve had plenty of conversations with my girlfriends about what I want in a guy, and many of them have admitted that the guy they marry has to have a lot of money, and be successful in a respectable career. However, I don’t want a man to take care of me, and at the end of the day, I just want to be married and build a family with someone.
I do, however, want to be comfortable and secure financially, in the sense that if I were to lose my job, or if I wanted to stay home with the kids, he would be able to support us. Meanwhile, a few months ago I started a new job at a local high school.
I work in the College Office, and I’ve gotten to know most of the staff, which includes the teachers, security guards, lunch ladies, and even the janitor, Kirby. The first day I met Kirby it was as if time stood still, as sappy as that sounds. I really can’t even explain it but he literally took my breath away, and even speech functioning.
We seemed to always get cornered in the elevator together, and he would spark up a conversation with me, and it was as if I was a mute because I could barely come up with words to say. It eventually got so bad that I would randomly go to his floor, just so I could run into him! I even told my friend’s about Kirby, and how beautiful he is, except I managed to leave out one detail.
It wasn’t until I was with a couple of my girlfriends over drinks when I started talking on and on about Kirby, and it inadvertently slipped that he was the janitor. I didn’t even realize I said it and hoped that nobody had heard, but they did. They all did.
My best friend Kandice even asked me if I was serious, and then proceeded to bust out laughing. Their comments hurt my feelings and sort of busted my bubble. I mean, they were right. Nothing serious could come of this crush and I should just nip it in the bud, and that’s what I did.
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The following week at work, whenever I saw him I didn’t even speak, and I stopped going to his floor. At first, I didn’t think he totally got the clue, but eventually, he did. He stopped initiating conversation with me and stopped cornering me in the elevator.
I couldn’t put up or handle the criticism in my friend’s voices, and I know my family would have said or thought the same things. Have you ever been embarrassed about a new guy?
My man was a janitor for a while. It didn’t change any of the characteristics that I love about him. Stop worrying about what others think about who or what makes you happy. That will have you missinout on some who can partner with you and fulfill your needs. That’s how bitter b!tch3s are created
He is working
Whats the problem???
For real its an honest living. He is better without her.
It is so sad that she is looking down on someone. He has a job he appears to be a nice person. She doesn’t deserve him.
She seems to have some pretty shallow friends and should prolly be seeking advice about them instead. Clearly she is not mature enough yet.
Well you loss hunni booboo. He deserves far better than a self absorbed having no self confidence ass like you. He could be working on having his own company for all you know but because you couldn’t look past his occupation you passed your opportunity for a potential husband. There’s no way you want to marry because let’s say you marry yourself a successful brother and he loses his job and becomes a janitor would you divorce him?? Y’all would rather date successful money having f boys then cry because he didn’t want commitment… Tssss, I’m tired of the female race sometimes.
I’m in my early 20s and honestly I wouldn’t care about what anyone thought. As long as he made me happy and cared for me. I bet half those women laughing men don’t even work.
We can find love in the most unlikeliest places if we’re open. Love should never be based on financial status. That’s why a lot of us are still single, unhappy and still looking. The Ego will trick us out of great opportunities, including love, every time if we don’t stop attaching money to happiness. Will we ever learn?
They are mad because they probably don’t have anyone
YOU CANT BE SERIOUS, YOU GOING TO DISS A HARD WORKING MAN BECAUSE YOUR SHALLOW GIRLFRIEND DONT THINK MUCH OF HIM. SMH I WORK AS A CUSTODIAN AT A ELEMENTARY SCHOOL, SOMETHING I CHOSE TO DO, I HAVE MY CNA LICENSE AND HOME HEALTH LICENSE. THATS MY JOB, BUT ONCE I LEAVE THAT PLACE I CONSIDER MYSELF AS HIGHEST AS THE NEXT PERSON AND I CARRY MYSELF THAT WAY. IM SURE HE CAN STEP OUT WITH THE BEST OF THEM WHEN IT TIME TO PUT WORK ASIDE.. YOU DONT DESERVE HIM. SMH
Some women always overlook the men that’s going to treat them right because they looking for an image. This is the most shallow thing I’ve ever heard.
She and her friends are all superficial, she may have just missed her Mr.Right 🙁
Really!?! Who cares what they think.
I hope he finds someone that won’t look down on him on account of ehat someone’s friends say. No one deserves someone so shallow