Dear Urban Gyal, let me tell you about that time I tried to friend zone a guy and he tried to side step it. Recently, I got out of a serious relationship, so I figured what better way to get over that after breakup hump, then to get out of the house and the slump. So, since a few of my best girlfriends were in town I thought it would be the perfect time to hit up a brunch party.
I really didn’t have any expectations, or was looking to meet anyone, I just wanted to get out of the house and have a few drinks with my girls. However, next thing I know, I’m at the bar watching the game and this guy starts chatting with me.
He wasn’t really my type, and I didn’t find him attractive, but he offered to buy me a drink, and from there we just kept chatting. Somewhere in the convo, I inadvertently told him all about my recent breakup, and then to further put him into the friend zone, I also told him how I wasn’t even totally over him and how we were meeting up for drinks that following Wednesday.
I mean, I have a ton of guy friends, so I tend to hit it off well with guys, and I assumed that this would just be another potential guy friend. We ended up exchanging numbers, and also planned to workout together the following week.
The fact that he would send me daily good morning texts that read “good morning- cancel the date with the ex” didn’t really bother me, because I just assume he was being a good male friend. Even when we worked out the following week, it wasn’t awkward and we legit just worked out, drenched in sweat and all.
I was actually quite happy because it felt like we were both on the same page, as far as the friend thing goes, and he wasn’t saying any suggestive comments. Fast forward to the following Sunday, when he asked me if I wanted to go to a bar to watch football with him and a group of his friends.. Ofcourse I said yes!
I mean, I don’t like sports, but I do like social gatherings with food and drinks. He even offered to pick me up- which living in NYC is rare, because normally most people rely on public transportation.
However, once I walked into the bar, and he introduced me to his group of friends, I only saw a guy and a girl, and from the way they were sitting so close together it appeared to me that they were a couple.
I Use This Product EVERY Week!
To my gyals, clay has cured my skin of years of acne proned skin, improved my complexion, acne scars and shrunk my pores. This is the best clay mask assortment pack to try all my favorite kinds of clay + it's affordable.
I was slightly confused. But then it immediately hit me that this was not a friendly gathering, it was a double date. Anybody who knows me knows I can’t hide my thoughts because it reads all over my face.
I mean, I actually felt lied to. He knew that I was not looking for any type of relationship with him, and he invited me under false pretenses.
Needles to say, that was the last time we hung out, and I became really short with him via text, and he must have gotten the hint, because he eventually just stopped texting me all together.