Getting married is on the list of things to do for most women, but a lot of them don’t realize that they’re the cause of their own singleness.

You could be unintentionally scaring away potential mates, which is why it’s important to understand the opposite sex and what they are and aren’t looking for in a future wife. There is a list of things that most men don’t want in their women, but here are the top five.

Being too independent or dependent

There should definitely be a balance between independence and dependence in a relationship. If you’re too needy or won’t allow him to help you in any way, it can be a problem for a lot of men.

Most men are looking for a woman who can hold her own ground when needed, but is also open to being taken care of. Allow him to feel like a man, without smothering him.

Not admitting when you’re wrong

Relationships are supposed to be fair, but if you refuse to admit when you’re wrong, then things will quickly go downhill. It’s alright to be wrong sometimes, and as long as you can own up to it, then your disagreements won’t get out of control.

Refusing to change for the better

No one’s perfect, and for a lot of women, there are areas we could definitely improve in. But some of us are wary of making those changes, feeling that a man should take us as we are, flaws and all.

But just as you expect your man to change for the better, so shall he expect the same in return. Why not change if you have the power to and if it would make you a better person and save your relationship?

Not being forgiving

Holding a grudge isn’t attractive and if you’re one who isn’t forgiving, you will send him running for the hills after your first major fight.

Now, this doesn’t mean you have to forgive him for any and everything he does. But judging the severity of the situation and whether it’s something that is worth forgiving is important. So having good judgment is key.

Not being motherly or nurturing

We all know men find motherly and nurturing women to be wifee material. If you dress and act in a way that is the opposite, then men won’t see you in that light.

Men want to know that you will take care of him and his children, so you’ll need to portray yourself in that light — i.e. cooking, cleaning, dressing respectfully, being there in bad times and nurturing him back to health when he’s sick.

If you’re worried about the fact you’re not yet married or don’t have a potential hubby on your radar, it could be because you fall into one of the above categories. Of course, it could also be just bad luck and not being in the right place at the right time. So continue to improve yourself, so that when you do meet Mr. Right, you’ll be ready!