Dear UrbanGyal, I just had to share this story because as I look back it was quite hilarious and even though it was like living in the Twilight zone I did learn something, so here goes.
I met my ex – husband right after College, as a matter of fact I was finishing my final year when we met. If you ask me now what I was attracted to I couldn’t tell you because we went through so much sh*t I hardly want to recall even the good times.
Anyway back in the day when we were talking and getting to know each other he told me that he had many gay friends and a lot of them liked him but he was straight.
He had one friend that he actually promised a roll in the sack with if the guy would let him use his house for a night time rendezvous with a woman he was interested in. Of course that was my first clue that something was a bit off but you know how us women are when we just want everything to just be perfect and we convince ourselves that, ‘his past will not affect our future”.
Skip a forward a year we eventually get married and settled down in a new State, we both didn’t know anyone, I mean we had my co-workers which he knew but he had always boasted about being an introvert and was ok with just chilling alone.
Since that conversation about the gay friends a year or so ago he had continuously given hints that he might be at least gay curious.
He had gay men come over in the middle of the day when I was not at home, claiming the guys just came over to hang out or just watch movies.
To say I was worried for my own safety is an understatement, I could not make sense of what my husband the man who was supposed to be the love my life was doing. Thinking back, I just did not want to make sense of it and so I let everything slide. The last straw was that one day I found out he talked to gay men online and one of them contacted him through messenger.