Picture this, rushing to work in the morning only to hear quite distinctly a ping on our home computer. We usually leave the computer on out of habit and my man happened to be signed into messenger.
Hearing the sound, naturally it caught my attention and to my non surprise not only is it some dude saying “good morning sweetie” but he sends a pic with his enormous ding dong in his hands.
I am stunned beyond belief, yes I had hints, yes he had mentioned gay friends but who in hell is this dude?- A real dude, a typing to my man dude, someone who clearly knows a ‘sweetie’ in my house and it clearly was not me!?
I then decide to be late for work because I had a confrontation to take care of. “Who is this?” – I showed him the screen with the picture, he turns off the chat and says just a dude he knows, then asks me if I wanted to be late, because all of a sudden “Mr. always late” could read the time.
In my mind I was thinking ok I guess this means there will be no conversation for him, but I wanted an explanation. I figured if I got a “di*k pic good morning” he would, if he cared, have at least like to know the back story. Fair right?
So after some high pitch screams on my part, he finally admitted he had a profile on a popular gay website so that he could meet male friends in the area because he doesn’t get a long with straight men as much as he does gay men.
Believe it or not, I half way accepted that excuse but I did not get it, I just didn’t understand why he would need a gay website where men go to meet other men, not for friendships but for hookups, to make friends? I kept asking myself, what about me? Why was I not enough, Was he protecting himself?
I have nothing against gay men or women, lets just be clear, I just figure if that’s what you are into then you should just be honest about it for all involved.
It did not take long after that for us to end up going our separate ways, the gay thing was the icing on the cake, our marriage was just wrong from the start.
Moral of the story is, follow your gut, do not waste precious years watching hints go by because one day you might just be faced with a huge ding dong (pun intended) and you will kick yourself for not walking away sooner.