So, the other day I was sifting through my emails, and came across a random email about a support group for singles on “how to deal with being single during the holidays” and I thought, really?

As if being single is some sort of disease, or something that should be dealt with. However, I do understand that being single during the holiday season can make some feel lonely, even though being single at any time of the year can be lonely.

If you are suffering from loneliness during the holiday season, here are some gentle reminders of why your single status during the holidays can actually be a good thing:

1. No Compromising Required

Being in a relationship during the holidays can be tricky when you have to decide who’s family will get to see you and your other on the big days, like Christmas and Thanksgiving. Especially if your families don’t live in close distance, that could be a big decision, and even costly if you have to make travel arrangements out of state!

2. Spoiling Yourself is Allowed

Buying gifts can get expensive, especially if you have a big family and a lot of close friends. Include a significant other, and the list just got longer. So, if your are single during the season, you can use the extra money on treating yourself for the holidays, or splurging a bit on your loved ones.

3. Enjoy The Present

As cliche as this may sound, there is no time like the present! The holidays are a time for cherishing your loved ones and being thankful for what you do have, not pouting about what you lack.

So, create some new traditions! Spend time with your loved ones! Go to a friends’ family, if you can’t travel home to see yours! Just don’t waste time entertaining lonely feelings, and remember that you won’t be lonely during the holidays forever, so embrace right now, and live.