Dear Urban Gyal, Soul Swipe for me, let me tell you about my last date!

Being an introverted homebody in a big city often times means that I miss out on a lot of social gatherings, and parties. I mean, I really just love alone time, and the solace of my cozy apartment.

However, I don’t want to be single forever, so I recently downloaded the free dating app, Soul Swipe. It’s essentially the same thing as Tinder, where it’s linked to your Facebook profile, and you can set your preferences- except Soul Swipe is solely for African Americans.

I’ve tried Tinder in the past, and wasn’t really a huge fan because there weren’t enough black guys on there, I mean I don’t discriminate, but I do know I want to date and eventually marry a black guy. So I spent maybe 30 minutes swiping left or right, and then closed the app. By the end of the first day I had about 20-25 matches, and about half of them sparked convo and sent me a message.

I was shocked! I didn’t have that much success on Tinder, and most of the guys were very attractive, so I was really excited to see what their conversation was like. By the to the middle of the week, I had a solid 5 guys who really sparked my interest and had good conversation, and by Friday I had a date set up with the top contender.

I will have to admit though, it begun to get a little tricky keeping up with all of the guys, I mean I am a full time student, and also work, so it’s not like I’m just sitting at home all day texting. On Friday’s date with, Joey* he took me to a place in NYC called Slate.

It had two levels; on the top floor there was a bar/lounge and on the lower level there were pool tables, ping pong tables, jinga stations, couches, and TVs, and also a bar. Joey* suggested that we play pool, even though I’ve never really played, and wasn’t very good at it.

However, he was a great teacher, and by the end of game one I actually was confident in my skills! And not to mention, I liked him even more. It’s just something about a guy who can make me laugh, and is patient.

After we played pool we just chilled,  ordered drinks, people watched, and chatted. At the end of the night he drove me home, and didn’t even try to come up. I was impressed and not to mention happy! It’s been so long since I actually had a nice date with a respectful guy, that I forgot how good it felt, and not to mention that that’s what I deserve.

Since then, I deleted my Soul Swipe app. I’ve hit it off with Joey* so I’m taking my chances with him and I also cut off the other guys as well. There’s no telling how things are going to turn out and I may have made a bad choice by cutting off the other guys, but I really don’t have the time to entertain multiple men. Who knows, if it doesn’t work out I can always download the app again!