Every now and again somebody drops a gem that everyone needs to hear. Tatyana has been gracing our screens ever since she was a little girl. I remember watching her myself and thinking, God she is so beautiful! I never once thought she would have any insecurities or beauty issues that was pure absurdity.
Now we are all grown up and I understand her message more than ever. I am also well aware that these days women need to hear everything they can about being different and loving it. They also need to hear that creating their own beauty standards is perfectly ok. So with that said, here is what Tatyana said recently:
“Loving yourself is all encompassing. I feel most empowered and beautiful when I’m walking in my purpose. That’s different for everyone. For me, it’s my art. When I’m acting, singing or producing I feel aligned with my calling.
I used to believe that love was reciprocal by nature. I had to disconnect myself from bad influences: people who didn’t support me or really care about me.
I had to learn my own value and draw very bold lines in the sand in terms of the types of behaviors I would allow in my sphere. I realized that my greatest work of art is my life, and my life is a gift far too precious to be shared with just anybody.
I wanted to change my hair. I wanted to change my height. I wanted to change the way I spoke. Basically, all the parts of me that others ostracized or made fun of me for.
I was forced to create my own standard for beauty, because I wasn’t exactly the same as any one side of my family. Growing up in a mostly white community in Long Island made things difficult as well.
To be truthful, there are a lot of prejudices in the Caribbean and in Indian communities about hair type and skin color. So, I heard the good, the bad and the ugly and had to decide that I didn’t believe any of it.” – Tatyana Ali