Even if it is a blind date or some guy you found on Tinder, the first date is always the biggest challenge you’ll ever take.
After the first date, if the two of you like each other and get along well, it could lead to a relationship but you have to pass the first exam.
We prepared a “don’ts list” to ease the tension for you. Follow our guide and if the chemistry allows you, you’ll guarantee a second date.
1. Don’t try to be someone other than you are
Be honest and try to feel comfortable around him. Do not try to be funny with some jokes you wouldn’t normally make. Show him the best version of you, show your strengths but don’t exaggerate.
2. Don’t open the ex-file
The most important “don’t” of this list is talking about your ex – or exes. Nobody wants to hear about your ex. Even if your last relationship ended in the recent past, don’t show him the wreckage of your ex. Remember, this is a clean slate.
3. Don’t have sex at least until third date
Unless you are planning to have sex afterwards, of course. If you are serious with him, try hiding the gems as long as you can. Wait at least until the third date.
4. Don’t’ turn it into an interview
Ask questions to get to know him better but don’t turn it into an interview. Ask something interesting and let him ask you another one. Don’t be boring. Tell something exciting you did before.
5. Don’t just listen
React to him. Do not just sit there and go all “hmm-hmm” and “oh, yes, I see”.
6. Don’t give too much information
I mean you know the guy for, what two weeks, two days? Don’t give out all the personal info. Be interesting and desirable but don’t reveal too much.
7. Don’t show off
Your salary or the things you own are not on the topic list to discuss of a first date. This can be really irritating.
8. Don’t get drunk
Sure you can drink to accompany your meal or if you’re at the bar you can drink two or three cocktails. But know your limit. Don’t get drunk and embarrass yourself. One can do unimaginable things while drunk.
9. Don’t dream about marrying him right after you got home
Of course you can fantasize but don’t dream big right after the first date. You may find yourself disappointed.
10. Don’t hesitate to call/text him for a second date if you like him
If you believe you did great on the first date and had a truly good time, go on and call him. Let’s get rid of the rule that says you have to give it time. If it works it just works, we are all too grown for games.