We all have things we look back and wish we did or handled differently. I looked back at my 22 year old self (now I’m 30) and came up with these list of things I wish I would have done differently. I hope you gyals can learn from my mistakes and experiences!
1. Not saying “yes” when I know I can’t follow through.
Saying “No” upright when someone asks for a favor or invites you to an event is much less painful then flaking on the other person later on or making up an obvious excuse later in order not to go.
2. Know that the decisions made in the past don’t define me forever.
No matter what your past looks like and no matter how scary the future may seem, if you chose to stop worrying and really focus on what is, you will realize that your worries were probably in vain.
3. Be picker with unpaid work.
Unpaid internships are so commonplace these days to help prepare you for the “real world” and a full-time job after school. However, if you are going to dedicate hours of your precious early 20’s working for a company, you need to really be picky with your position. See #5 for more details on how to improve your unpaid internship experience.
4. Be less of a B*tch to my parents.
Growing up I always got tired of my parents always telling me what to do. Our parents are one of the few people in our lives who truly and unselfishly want what’s best for us. Although sometimes we disagree with their opinions or their viewpoints, it doesn’t mean that we should disrespect them or treat them poorly. After you graduate high school, you will have seen your parent’s for 80% of the time you’ll see them in your entire life. If that doesn’t scare you into treating them better, then I don’t know what will!
Everything is negotiable! Rarely are things in life absolute. Someone once said, “You don’t get what you deserve, you get what you negotiate.” For unpaid internships: try to see if the position absolutely has to be unpaid, or if the company can pay for other benefits, like food or commuting. Oftentimes the position is only unpaid because people don’t NEGOTIATE!
6. Be smarter about how I buy clothes
When I got an interview for a job, not only did I buy a nice interview outfit, I also bought a whole wardrobe for that job title. Later when I found out that I didn’t get the job, I had all these new clothes for the job that I didn’t get. What I recommend is, buy ONE good interview outfit. Once you get the job, then fill your wardrobe with new clothes, The Devil Wears Prada style.
7. Accept that not every friend will last.
It’s normal to slowly lose touch with your friends from school over time. They live different lives, get married, move for a new job, etc. This is why you should cherish the time you have with them now. Don’t fight or argue over little things.
8. Say “no” to certain jobs.
Once you graduate, it will be tempting to find any job that will give you probably the biggest paycheck you will have seen to date. However, just because you are new in the market doesn’t mean you should say yes to the first thing that comes. Be patient, and a better job may be around the corner. Don’t be afraid to do some waitressing, barista-ing for a while until you find a job you really want.
Now that you’ve seen my list, tell me which one you think is the best in the comments!
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